A woman recently sparked discussion online after sharing that she wishes to become a housewife after marriage, but her fiancé wants both of them to contribute financially.
In a Threads post, the woman questioned whether it was wrong for her to want a more traditional role in a modern relationship.
Wanted to focus on home and family
According to her, she had always dreamed of becoming a housewife after marriage and wanted to focus on taking care of the home, her husband, and their future children.
However, her fiancé apparently had a different view of married life.
She wrote that he did not want them to live like their parents’ generation, and instead preferred both partners to work, contribute, and spend money together.
Fiancé only wants to provide basic needs
The woman said her fiancé was only prepared to cover basic necessities such as food, drinks, accommodation, and other essentials.
Because of that, she said she would still need to work to pay for other expenses, including household items, leisure, and future needs involving their children.
She also added in the comments that they had already started buying some household items together on a 50-50 basis.
However, she admitted that she felt they were not aligned in terms of mindset and life goals.
She also claimed that they often fought about money during their engagement period.
Netizens say they may not be compatible
The post drew plenty of reactions from netizens, with many saying that the issue should be discussed seriously before marriage.
Some felt that the couple might not be compatible if their expectations for marriage were already very different.
One commenter said it was better to call off an engagement than to go through a divorce later, adding that marriage is a long-term commitment and not something to enter with doubts.
Another netizen said both partners need to have aligned mindsets for a peaceful household.
Several netizens also defended the woman’s desire to become a housewife.
One commenter said there are still men who want a wife who stays at home, and who are willing to provide fully for the household.
Another pointed out that a 50-50 arrangement is not truly equal if only one partner has to go through pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding in the future.
However, not everyone placed the blame on the fiancé.
One netizen said both sides had valid points, especially given the current economy.
The commenter said relying on one income may be difficult for some couples, and that work can also give women personal space, independence, and breathing room outside the home.
For many netizens, the debate was less about whether being a housewife is right or wrong.
Instead, they felt the bigger issue was whether the couple had the same expectations for marriage, finances, and family roles.
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