Dating expenses is a sensitive topic among couples, whether they like it or not.
For one Malaysian woman, the issue wasn’t about who paid for food, but whether it was fair for her to also cover petrol expenses when her boyfriend uses her car whenever they go out.
BF uses her car for dates
In a post, the woman asked how she should tell her boyfriend to pay for petrol.
According to her, her boyfriend would usually use her car whenever they went out on dates. However, whenever they stopped at a petrol station, he would ask her for money to fill up the tank.
She said she did not really mind paying, but felt slightly conflicted because the car belonged to her and the fuel would technically still be used by her after that.
At the same time, she also pointed out that her boyfriend usually paid for their meals. Because of this, she wondered if it was fair for her to pay for the petrol.
Reactions
The post quickly drew mixed reactions from netizens.
One commenter said it depends on the situation, saying if the couple was going somewhere far and the boyfriend was using her car, she could ask him to chip in for petrol.
However, if the destination was nearby, the OP could pay for the petrol since her boyfriend had already paid for the meal.
The netizen also reminded the OP that she was not yet a wife or fiancée, and should not expect her boyfriend to cover for everything unless he was financially able to do so.
Other netizens advised the OP to simply bring it up to her boyfriend without overthinking.
Another said expenses should be discussed properly, especially when it comes to who pays for meals, petrol, and other dating activities.
However, not everyone agreed.
Some felt that if a boyfriend was already using his girlfriend’s car for dates, he should automatically offer to pay for petrol without being asked.
One netizen said if he was a gentleman, he would not let it become an issue in the first place.
Another told her that if the relationship was already on a 50-50 basis, it could become a bigger problem after marriage.
The OP later clarified that she was not trying to be calculative, but was worried that he might end up taking advantage of her like someone had done in the past.
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