A man in his 30s has shared his relationship dilemma online, saying that financial expectations have become one of the biggest issues between him and his long distance girlfriend.
The man said he currently works in Singapore and earns a decent salary.
His girlfriend, meanwhile, is based in Kuala Lumpur, where she works as a financial analyst. She is also a partner in a side business and reportedly earns more than him.
Together for 3 years in a long distance relationship
According to the man, the couple has been in a long distance relationship for about three years.
They usually meet once a month, either with his girlfriend flying to Singapore or him travelling to KL.
He said his girlfriend has helped him a lot over the years, especially in teaching him about social awareness and how to handle people better.
He also described her as a strong and capable woman, though he claimed that her temper is not the best.
Says girlfriend started having more material expectations
Looking back, the man said his girlfriend was not materialistic when they were studying overseas together.
He recalled how they used to eat at mamak stalls during their university days, back when life was much simpler.
However, after they graduated and started working, he said things slowly changed as both of their financial situations improved.
According to him, his girlfriend began having more expectations when it came to money, lifestyle, and their future.
While he said he could understand it to a certain extent, he felt pressured when she repeatedly questioned his plans.
Asked when he would buy a landed house
One issue that bothered him was his girlfriend allegedly asking when they would buy a landed house, even though they already owned a condominium.
He said this made him feel stressed, especially since they already own a condominium.
To him, it seemed like his girlfriend felt that he had not properly planned their future.
“She always feels like I have not planned our future properly,” he said.
Disagreed over Switzerland trip expenses
The man also brought up a past disagreement during their trip to Switzerland.
According to him, his girlfriend had asked why he was not paying for the entire trip as previously discussed.
In the end, he suggested paying 80% of the expenses while she covered the remaining 20%.
He explained that he had suffered losses from stock investments at the time and did not want to sell his holdings while the market was down.
Says relationship has become strained
Apart from financial disagreements, the man said the couple also often quarrelled due to their different personalities.
In the past, he would usually tolerate and give in to his girlfriend during arguments.
However, he recently met another woman whom he described as kind and understanding, which made him realise that he was starting to lose patience with his girlfriend.
He admitted that he has been spending money on the new woman occasionally while still being in a relationship.
The man said he knows his actions are wrong and unfair to his girlfriend, but he is afraid to bring up a breakup because of everything they have gone through together.
