In any relationship, money is often a topic that determines whether the romance will endure or crumble as it’s a “sensitive” topic that can go wrong if not handled properly.
A woman is wondering whether she should stay or leave her boyfriend who is jobless and reportedly doesn’t make an effort to spend quality time with her.
‘Am I being evil?’
In a Threads post, the OP started off by asking whether she was an “evil” person for wanting to break up with her unemployed boyfriend.
She continued:
“Alhamdulillah, I’ve been living in a comfortable life since I was a kid. Since I was with him, even when he had a job before, he never really planned to bring me to a cafe or restaurant, even once a month.
“Before this, he worked two jobs and even said life back then was more comfortable. However, he never really spent much on me, maybe because he knew I grew up in a well-to-do family and could get whatever I wanted. But as his girlfriend, I felt that I wanted the same from him.”
On the other hand, the OP admitted that she was aware of her boyfriend’s problems back home, where he had to switch between living his dad and mum’s house as they were divorced, as well as worry about daily expense.
Despite this, she still felt that her boyfriend gave her little reason to maintain the relationship any further.
“It’s not about having to bring me to fancy restaurants or cafes. Normally, I’d go out for a meal with my family once or twice a month, and we don’t go to expensive places all the time.
“It’s just a simple thing, but I wish I could experience that with him too. It’s not because I want expensive things, but I just want to feel some effort being made by him,” she explained.
Netizens back OP up
In the comment section, netizens fully supported the OP’s desire to leave her boyfriend, with one saying that men who are unemployed are a “red flag” as they’re not prepared to provide for their family after marriage.
Another told the OP that there was no shame in leaving a boyfriend who made little effort on his end to make her feel loved and cherished.
One netizen told the OP that while it wasn’t wrong of her to terminate the relationship, she has to prepare herself of being accused of abandoning her boyfriend at his lowest point.
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