A man is now in a quandary over whether he should call it quits on his three-year relationship with his girlfriend after he found his heart being captured by another girl.
Reactions towards his dilemma weren’t well-received by netizens, who called him out on his two-timing behaviour and for blaming his girlfriend for his disloyalty.
Happier times
In an anonymous post, the OP wrote that he worked as an AI engineer in Singapore, while his girlfriend, who’s based in KL and has a higher salary, works full-time as a Financial Analyst while being a partner in a medical aesthetics business.
He added they have been in a long-distance relationship for three years and described his girlfriend as “strong, career-driven woman” who was an incredibly understanding and supportive person.
However, he noted that his girlfriend’s only flaw was her fiery temper, which was what eventually led him to fall for another girl.
‘I know it’s wrong but…’
The OP said due to his girlfriend’s temper, it led to a lot of arguments and he felt his patience for her waning.
He also said he rarely gets intimate with his girlfriend, adding that they only sleep together once every three months.
The OP later crossed paths with another girl who seemed to understand him better than his girlfriend did, leading him to slowly fall for her and lavishing her with gifts.
But this also caused him to be ridden with guilt as he knew his girlfriend would be deeply hurt if she found out what he was doing.
I know what I’m doing is wrong, and I know it’s unfair to my girlfriend, but I can’t seem to stop myself.
“At the same time, I’m afraid to break up with her because we’ve been through so much together over the years,” he wrote.
Justification
The OP then attempted to rationalise his actions by detailing how his girlfriend’s character changed drastically once both of them started working.
“During our university days, we used to eat at the mamak together all the time and she never struck me as a materialistic person.
“After we graduated, started working, and became more financially stable, she started having certain material expectations of me, which is understandable.
“However, she also constantly guilt-tripped and pressured me by asking repeatedly about my future plans and when I was going to buy a landed house, even though we already own a condominium,” he said.
Backlash
Netizens didn’t sympathise with the OP and roundly condemned him for absolving himself of all responsibility in being unfaithful to his girlfriend.
Some told the man to walk away from the relationship if he was truly unhappy and to set his girlfriend free.
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