These days, social media is a place where people frequently share their thoughts, feelings, and sometimes even deeply personal matters.
But a recent post from a Malaysian woman has stirred up a debate about whether relationship issues should be kept private or aired online.
The OP, shared her perspective on the platform X (formerly Twitter), @fatiniqaaa, suggesting that airing family issues on social media only risks exposing one’s own privacy and that of their partner, often leading to unnecessary embarrassment.
Instead, she recommended that people consider using tools like ChatGPT for support, rather than seeking out friends or followers—especially those who might not fully grasp the situation.
In her first post, she wrote:
“Since getting married, I have a principle: don’t share family problems on social media or with outsiders—even if they’re your best friend. Protect your partner’s privacy; resolve issues just between the two of you. Do you really want strangers knowing you’re arguing? And going to the opposite gender for comfort? I just don’t get it.”
The OP expressed her confusion about why some people confide in friends of the opposite gender, suggesting this approach is hard to understand unless the issues are serious, like domestic violence or infidelity.
In a follow-up comment, she added:
“And to those on the outside, please don’t get involved in someone else’s family matters. Let them sort things out themselves. Don’t go meddling in others’ private lives unless you’re a professional relationship counsellor.”
‘Download ChatGPT’
Ending her post with an alternative, she encouraged those seeking advice to consider tools like ChatGPT:
“If you want to vent or ask for advice, instead of reaching out to outsiders, download ChatGPT. You’re welcome.”
The OP’s thread has since gone viral, amassing over 400,000 views, with many netizens resonating with her advice.
“That’s right… Family matters should be kept private. Don’t trust anyone. Don’t leave any room open, not even a little.”
Betul…. Hal rumah tngga should be kept a secret.. jgn caya sesapa pun. Jgn buka ruang walau sikit pun
— Nur Raihan 🇵🇸 l pm mandarin class (@_dahipretty) September 3, 2024
“If you truly love someone, you won’t expose their bad behaviour to people you’re not close to, or even those you are close to. Because you love that person, you’ll protect them at all costs, no matter how flawed they may be. It’s not about inviting others to judge them with hatred.”
If you really love someone, you will not expose their bad behaviour dekat orang yang korang tak rapat, tak kenal, or rapat sekalipun. Because you love that person. You will protect them at all costs. Seburuk manapun dia. Bukan mengajak orang dengan kebencian.
— ديان🌷 (@Diyan2301) September 2, 2024
“Outsiders can escalate feelings and add fuel to the fire. Instead of relieving emotional burdens, you end up being harshly judged.”
Orang luar menyampaikan dan menambah rasa. Dari nak lepaskan beban emosi jadi diumpat keji.
— meimei (@_jedagjedug) September 2, 2024
What’s your view on this approach? Is ChatGPT the solution for handling private matters, or does social media still hold a place for support? Share your thoughts in the comments.
Here is the full post:
I punya prinsip lepas kahwin: jangan cerita masalah rumah tangga dekat socmed or outsider even your bff sekalipun. Jaga aib partner, fix it just btwn two of you. Suka ke orang luar tahu korang tengah gaduh? Lepastu jenis yang pi mengadu dekat opposite gender? Lahhh tak faham???
— fatih 🍫 (@fatiniqaaa) September 1, 2024
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