A woman took to social media to share how her ex-boyfriend’s dishonesty left her disillusioned but a much wiser person when it comes to relationships.
She recounted her story in a lengthy anonymous confession, starting from the time she got smitten by her boyfriend to the day they broke up.
Master of words
In the confession, the OP wrote that her then-boyfriend was skilled in saying the right words and often talked about their future, dreams, opening a gym, earning money together, and building a better life.
Unsurprisingly, this caused her to fall for him and believe that he meant every word he said.
She also said her boyfriend often spoke about his troubled family background and all the hardships he had gone through, leading her to feel sorry for him.
However, she later realised it was nothing but sweet talk.
I thought I had met someone who was willing to work hard and build a future together, but those promises about the future were nothing more than empty promises and grand visions.
“I also learnt that some share their painful past not because they want to be honest with you, but because they want you to lower your guard.”
Lied about dating status
More red flags appeared when the OP’s boyfriend outright lied about him not being romantically attached despite it not being the case.
“While we were together, he would tell other people that he was single. But how could a man who claimed to have no girlfriend stay at my house for three consecutive months?
“He ate and lived with me every day, yet he rarely took the initiative to contribute to the rent or living expenses,” she ranted.
The OP also said her boyfriend often claimed to come from a well-off family but she was the one footing the bill for their meals most of the time.
Blamed her for breakup
Unhappy by the state of their relationship, the OP decided to part ways with her boyfriend, who then blamed her for the breakdown.
“He said our relationship ended up this way because I drank (alcohol) and had to attend social engagements. But I work in sales, and entertaining clients is part of my job.
“The most ridiculous part was that I kept wondering whether I simply wasn’t good enough and even bought him expensive perfume in hopes of saving the relationship, only to find out he found himself another woman while he was living with me.”
Broken but wiser
In retrospect, the OP said she was foolish but doesn’t regret what she went through in the relationship.
“I’ve learnt that someone who truly loves you will never make you constantly doubt yourself and not to be quick to believe everything a man tells you.”
She advised other women to look for someone who’s not just good with words, but one who’s genuine in planning a future with them.
She also reminded women that leaving a relationship isn’t a sign of failure, but a newfound chance to love themselves first before loving someone else.
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