If you’ve been single for a long time, you’ve probably found asking yourself countless times when it would be your turn to finally be off the single market and settle down with your life partner.
A Singaporean woman recently shared her frustration on social media over her inability to find a romantic partner despite going for more dates than she could count with her fingers.
Had over 50 dates in 5 years, but still alone
In a lengthy post shared on the subreddit r/SingaporeRaw, the woman wrote she’s currently in her 30s and restarted her hand at the dating scene after a year’s break.
However, after more than 50 dates within a span of five years through “apps, events, mutual friends, even blind dates”, she’s sadly still single.
I really gave it my all, but eventually, it just became too emotionally draining,” she lamented.
The OP also disclosed that she had been in two previous relationships, which didn’t last long due to differences in values.
‘Am I too late or not enough?’
The OP also noticed that there were two things that stood out like a sore thumb when it came to her attempts at snagging a date:
- The shrinking size of men available for dating
- Not being approached despite being “more upfront” (e.g. flirting or starting conversations)
“And for those who do show interest, many seem emotionally unavailable or are only looking for something casual, which can be even more disheartening,” she added.
The OP said she even turned to her family for advice, who in turn suggested that she “soften her energy, be more feminine, and avoid posting photos with guy friends on Instagram”. Sadly, none of it worked out for her.
To further add on to her already low self-esteem, the OP expressed her wish to be a mother and even considered freezing her eggs, but she’s also deeply cognizant that she can’t afford it and is running out of time on her biological clock.
“There are moments I wonder if I’m too late. Too much. Or just not enough. But deep down, I still hope someone will see me for who I truly am, and chooses to stay,” she wrote.
Netizens offer sympathy
In the comment section, netizens were full of sympathy for the OP’s sense of loneliness and shared their own heartbreaking dating stories.
A netizen, a single guy in his 30s, agreed with the OP’s observation about the shrinking dating pool and added he had “less love to pour out and give to the next person” every time a date didn’t work out.
Another said dating apps aren’t exactly the best platform to find a life partner as it sets up an incredibly high level of expectation for both parties, which will most likely end in bitter disappointment.
Meanwhile, a netizen tried to comfort the OP by sharing how she met her husband at the age of 34 and having a kid the next year — proof that love still exists out there if one’s willing to wait.
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