A woman in Malaysia recently shared a personal experience about her relationship that left her questioning its future.
In an anonymous confession, she revealed that she broke down after her boyfriend gifted her a RM1,000 phone for her 30th birthday instead of the iPhone 17 she had been hoping for.
Her story was shared on the XUAN Facebook page, where it quickly drew attention from netizens.
Turning 30 came with quiet expectations
In her confession, the woman shared that she had recently turned 30, an age many around her described as the “right time” for marriage.
She admitted that she had also harboured similar thoughts. If her boyfriend had given her a gift she truly liked on that day, or even proposed, she felt she would have been ready to accept.
That hope, however, did not last.
Hinted for months about iPhone
According to her post, she had spent months subtly hinting that she wanted to change her phone, specifically mentioning an iPhone 17.
She was still using an iPhone 14, which her boyfriend had previously bought for her, and felt it was reasonable to want an upgrade after some time.
Because he had bought her jewellery and handbags in the past when she expressed interest, she assumed he understood what she was hoping for this time as well.
On the day itself, he even told her to dress up nicely, further reinforcing her belief that something special was coming.
A gift that missed the mark
Her boyfriend did present her with a new phone on her birthday. However, it was not the model she wanted.
Instead, it was a phone priced at around RM1,000. The moment left her feeling shocked, disappointed, and upset.
She stressed that her reaction was not about the cost of the phone, but about feeling misunderstood. To her, the gift symbolised a gap between what she expected and what he believed was enough.
An emotional outburst and regret after
Alongside the phone, the only other plan he had made was a candlelight dinner.
Overwhelmed by emotion, she admitted that she lost control. She threw the phone on the ground, walked away, skipped the dinner entirely, and did not speak to him for several days.
After calming down, she said the anger turned inward. She began questioning her own naivety and whether she had been wrong to believe that someone could truly understand her unspoken expectations.
She also started to doubt the sincerity of the promises he made while pursuing her, and whether he truly loved her as much as she had believed.
Comparing love through material effort
The woman shared that seeing friends receive luxury gifts or overseas trips from their partners only intensified her doubts.
In her mind, love meant effort. She questioned whether a man who truly loved her would try his best to fulfil what she wanted, especially on a milestone birthday.
This internal conflict continued even after her boyfriend apologised.
A proposal that came too late
She later discovered that her boyfriend had already bought an engagement ring and was planning to propose.
She admitted that if the proposal had happened before the birthday incident, she would likely have accepted it without hesitation.
Now, however, she is no longer sure if they share the same understanding of love, effort, and expectations. The incident left her questioning whether they are truly compatible for marriage.
Ending her confession, she posed a question to readers. If they were in her position, would they accept the proposal or walk away after realising how differently both sides define love.
The post has since sparked mixed reactions online, with netizens debating whether the issue lies in mismatched expectations or deeper communication gaps within the relationship.
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