A Malaysian man is left scratching his head and wondering why his longtime girlfriend accused him of being miserly even after spending tons of money on her.
As such, he’s now wondering whether he should continue putting up with her or call it quits on the relationship.
Lavished GF with money & gifts during special occasions
In an anonymous posting shared by XUAN, the OP wrote he had been with his girlfriend for seven years and would always be the one paying for their dates, including fuel, parking, and other expenses.
On special occasions like our anniversary, Valentine’s Day, her birthday, and New Year’s Eve, I also make sure to give her gifts. My usual way of gifting is to transfer money directly to her bank account so she can choose what she likes.
“For her birthday, I usually transfer around RM1,200, and I’ve been gradually increasing the amount each year.”
Lent GF more than RM4,000
Aside from the gifts and money, the OP added his girlfriend wanted to dye her hair at an upscale salon on New Year’s Eve in 2022, which cost around RM1,600 but she didn’t have the money for it.
As such, she approached the OP and asked whether she could borrow some money from him. While he acquiesced, he also made his girlfriend promise that she would pay him back in instalments.
Then in October 2024, the OP lent his girlfriend over RM3,000 so that she could sit for a professional exam for a job promotion—with the same promise that she would repay him in the future.
M’sian says GF of 7 years called him ‘stingy’
However, the OP’s girlfriend never followed through with her promise of repayment and even claimed that he was being “stingy” and “tight-fisted” with his money, leaving him baffled.
The OP also said his girlfriend expressed jealousy over seeing friends being able to receive luxury handbags worth RM5,000 to RM15,000 from their husbands every year.
“Realistically, I can afford gifts within the RM1,500–RM2,500 range, and I’m willing to buy her something within that budget. But she’s not satisfied and insists on something more expensive.
“I once asked her, ‘If you really want a handbag, why not use the birthday money I give you each year to buy one within budget? Or maybe use it on skincare, makeup, or lipstick instead?’ But she’s unwilling to compromise,” he wrote.
Aside from handbags, the OP also said his girlfriend accused him of not loving her enough and gave him the cold shoulder after he suggested that she pay RM1,500 and him covering the remaining RM1,500 in travel expenses if a trip were to cost RM3,000.
To stay or say goodbye?
Towards the end of the post, the OP asked whether he should walk away from the relationship or remain.
I’m really confused and unsure whether I should end this relationship. After all, we’ve known each other since high school and have grown up together from our teenage years to today.
“We went through the pandemic lockdown together and have shared over seven years of memories. Breaking up feels like a shame, but continuing like this just feels exhausting.”
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