Have you ever been in a long-term relationship and struggled with differences when it comes to income and expenses? Here’s a confession shared by a Malaysian man who has a similar story.
In a confession shared on the Facebook page Xuan Play, a Malaysian man opened up about his inner turmoil regarding his long-term relationship.
He is in a dilemma about whether to continue his long-term relationship with his girlfriend, as he has made significant progress in his career by building his own small business, while she remains in a job with limited income as an employee.
According to the confession, the man described himself as financially independent, a small business owner who has managed to buy both a house and a car on his own.
His girlfriend, who has been with him since the days when he had nothing, has seen him grow and progress over the years.
However, it seems that as his success soared, their relationship dynamics began to shift.
The man, who is nearing 30, expressed his concerns about the growing differences between him and his girlfriend, particularly in terms of their financial situations
He mentioned that his girlfriend has remained in a job with limited income, as she is an employee.
Despite being four years younger, her spending habits have become a point of contention, as she reportedly spends five to six times more than he does on average.
This growing disparity has not only affected their financial compatibility but also their ability to communicate effectively.
The man also shared that he often feels misunderstood when discussing his work-related worries with her.
“I often share my work-related worries with her, but she can’t understand them, and that’s a problem between us,” he wrote.
He he has started to feel that she lacks the material support and security he now seeks in a partner.
“However, as my business has grown, I’ve started feeling that she isn’t good enough. I often complain that she doesn’t understand me, only endlessly pampers me, but can’t provide material support or a sense of security for the future,” he expressed.
The confession took a deeper turn when the man admitted that he has begun questioning whether this relationship is truly what he wants.
Despite her unwavering affection, he expressed his frustration at feeling no longer in love with her, finding it difficult to appreciate anything beyond her care for him.
The man even confessed to being easily attracted to other women with better salaries, which has added to his internal conflict.
Interestingly, despite his doubts, the man also acknowledged that his girlfriend is a good person and that their relationship might not have encountered these issues if he weren’t so driven by his career.
Yet, the fear of being labelled as a scumbag or facing online backlash has held him back from ending the relationship.
“Besides being good to me, she has nothing else. Sometimes I think about breaking up, but I’m afraid of being labelled as a scumbag and getting attacked online,” he revealed.
He remains torn between saying goodbye to eight years of love and the fear of their growing differences driving them further apart.
What do you think? Should he focus on his career goals and find a partner who matches his current lifestyle, or should he stay with his girlfriend and value the years of love and companionship they’ve shared, even with their differences?
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