A 48-year-old woman recently shared an anonymous post about her life, saying that although she is financially stable and successful, she feels deeply lonely.
Her story has sparked discussion online about modern relationships and personal expectations.
Financially secure but emotionally alone
In a Facebook post shared by 李大叔, she described herself as what many would call a “strong and successful woman”.
She has over a million in bank savings, owns two apartments, drives a BMW, and travels overseas at least twice a year.
Many people admire my independence and capability,” she wrote.
However, she admitted that when she returns home, reality feels different.
Every day when I close the door, there isn’t even a ‘you’re back’ waiting for me.”
She added, “That kind of silence can swallow a person.”
High standards in relationships
The woman said she is not short of admirers, but she is not willing to settle.
She does not feel secure with men who have unstable incomes.
She does not want to date divorcees as she does not wish to become a stepmother.
She feels younger men may be immature, while older men often already have families.
I just hope to find someone mature, stable, financially capable, emotionally steady, able to communicate, and willing to spend time with me. Is that too much?” she asked.
Her friends told her that her standards may be too high, but she disagreed.
“I worked hard to reach this position. I didn’t do it to ‘settle’,” she wrote.
Too busy to connect
At the same time, she reflected on her own lifestyle.
She is constantly busy with work, investments, and financial planning.
When friends ask her out, she often says she has no time.
I want deep conversations, yet I am too lazy to even join casual chats,” she admitted.
At night, she sits in her living room with the television switched on but not watching.
“I scroll my phone, but there is actually no one waiting for me.”
Questioning herself
She began to wonder whether she is too selective or if she does not know how to let people get close to her.
She said she is not used to showing vulnerability, acting affectionate, or taking initiative.
She is used to being in control, but she realised that relationships cannot be built through control alone.
She questioned whether she has treated money as her source of security and independence as her armour.
She asked whether she has unknowingly pushed people away.
A wider discussion
In her closing words, she asked whether her loneliness is a personal issue or a reflection of modern society.
She questioned whether others would choose to settle for companionship or remain single instead.
Many netizens said her situation is not rare among women of similar age and financial status.
One commenter wrote, “Women with this level of wealth and age are actually very common in society, and it is extremely hard for them to find a soulmate.”
The same commenter listed several reasons, including that such women are no longer willing to compromise and are used to being in control.
“They have deep thoughts that ordinary men may not understand. Men with similar status often prefer someone softer,” the comment read.
Another netizen pointed out that expectations also play a role.
“She wants someone clean and decent. Sweet-talking men are often not trustworthy, and trustworthy men are usually not sweet talkers,” the user wrote.
On the other hand, some saw her current life as a blessing.
“As long as you’ve been married before, you’ll know how good her current situation is,” one netizen said.
Another wrote, “At 48, maybe you don’t need it anymore. Just focus on being happy alone.”
